In the fallout of Jon Gruden’s firing due to a series of “offensive” emails he sent from 2011-2018, Las Vegas Raiders quarterback offered a solution to make sure this never happens again: initiate a witch hunt on every NFL coach and general manager and see what dirt they can find on them.
People would sweat a bit if we all opened up everyone’s emails and text messages. It’s possible, but not likely. Maybe that is what coaches, GMs, and owners should do from now: open up. It’s time to let everything out. You’ll be amazed at what you find.
ESPN further reported that when Raiders owner Mark Davis, general manager Mike Mayock and interim head coach Rich Bisacci addressed the team less than 48 hours after Gruden’s termination, the team was “emotionally shaken to the core.”
Gruden clearly misunderstood what he had to say and that the former skipper could have done better at keeping communication open in private. But there is an equally big problem in the mentality and maturity of not just the Raiders, but everyone in the NFL who is dancing on Gruden’s grave.
The mentality of the team and league is that through fear and digging up the past, you can intimidate someone – or many people – into changing their behavior and preventing anything bad from ever being said again.
Guess what? This will not be the case.
If there is one thing that all of us are good at, it’s messing up. We are bound to at one point or another (even those who think they are pious and righteous, like Carr and the Raiders’ leadership), especially those in the world of football. The players and leaders of teams who make living organizing and playing a brutal and rough game are usually brutal and rough people. It is normal to hear things you find offensive or borderline objectionable.
It will not fix the problem of offensive comments made in the past. This will only make it worse. At some point, players and coaches will have to accept that coaches will say hurtful things and that they must learn to move on.
The fact that players can’t understand this has shown the lack of emotional maturity of those in the NFL – especially in Las Vegas. Carr’s call to action seems to stem from someone who can’t even fathom that there is such a thing as negativity or hurtful words in the NFL and that it can be – and must be – eradicated to make a safe space for people before they can continue living.
But he’s not the only one to emotionally act well below his age on the team. Defensive end Carl Nassib, the NFL’s first active player to come out as gay, took a “personal day” after hearing that the emails came out, which apparently contained anti-gay language.
I’m running out of ways to say that this whole response to the situation is ridiculous. The words Gruden said weren’t even targeted at Nassib, but this softie has to stay home from work because his feelings were hurt? It sounds very strange for someone who was celebrated as being courageous by making his coming-out public.
The workplace toxicity they create will continue to grow unless the NFL ceases criminalizing individuals for past actions. This will not be an easy decision for anyone.