“Your reaction vindicates him absolutely.”
A journalist was roundly mocked Tuesday after revealing on social media that she had been rejected by a man after he learned she was a member of the media.
Lyz Lenz, a feminist writer whose work has been published in The New York Times and currently appears in the Columbia Journalism Review, tweeted out her romantic misfortune to her more than 30,000 followers.
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“congratulations to the man who unmatched with me the moment I told him I was a journalist,” she said, referring to the phenomenon of being unselected by a potential mate on dating app sites.
So you're gonna dox someone because he isn't interested in dating a journalist, thereby proving that you are exactly what he (and most of us) think you all are….. Lying, narcissist, hateful and trashy? Good job lmao. You really showed him. 😂
— Cybilinside (@daddyskrackers) April 19, 2019
Lenz responded to an avalanche of criticism by taking a dig at America’s heartland. “keep it classy middle America,” she tweeted.
Commenters slammed the former Buzzfeed contributor for doxxing the man in question and took issue with Lenz’s swipe at middle America.
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“your reaction vindicates him absolutely,” snarked one commenter. Another called the man who rejected Lenz a “legend.”
“So you should definitely slander an entire region of the country and doxx him. That doesn’t make it seem like he dodged a massive bullet or anything…” wrote one Twitter user.
This is why he unmatched. pic.twitter.com/pKi6lflGNQ
— Cameron Cawthorne (@Cam_Cawthorne) April 19, 2019
Lenz continued to snipe at her critics, who she called “snowflakes,” in subsequent tweets where she claimed they were “mad” that “a woman is funnier than them online.”
“Congratulations to all the trolls who found this and think this proves anything about the media. I’m a single mom and I’ve lived in middle America my whole life and I shop at Walmart. Go home,” she wrote.
A whole bunch of snowflakes mad that a woman is funnier than them online
— Lyz Lenz (@lyzl) April 18, 2019
Lenz has a habit of letting her readers in on the most intimate details of her personal life. In an essay published by Glamour this week, she recounted her misadventures in love and sex as a divorced woman in the post-#MeToo era.
The essay, which detailed her dating life in the fall of 2017, described the difficulty Lenz had reconciling the #MeToo movement’s exhortation that “Men are bad. Men are trash” with her burning desire for the opposite sex.
“A Greek chorus of women across America spoke with a single voice. ‘Men are bad. Men are trash,’ the women said. And yet all I wanted to do was touch men, taste them—I craved them,” Lenz wrote.
As with her semi-viral tweet, Lenz poured out her unvarnished thoughts, warts and all.
“So when at 35 I found myself completely unmoored, I decided to just fuck up. I plunged into a world of canceled men, dating apps, dick pics—the bad men, who were in fact bad, the good men who tried so hard to prove they were good, except what? Put on a condom, you say?” she wrote. “In letting go of my marriage, I let go of everything I had known and understood about sex and relationships and men. And I did it as all the women on earth had turned into open wounds.”
Describing her sexual confusion in the wake of the individual tragedy of her marriage and the broader tragedy of #MeToo, Lenz was surprised to find herself revitalized by the dalliances with the men she was supposed to view as enemies.
“I should have been repulsed. I should have been angry. I should have shut down. Instead, at work, I was sobbing. And after dark I was fucking,” she averred.
“There was the polyamorous poet. The writer who told me I was overrated and insisted I listen to his vinyl collection. The very nice lawyer. The former white nationalist turned librarian whom I ghosted with no shame. The man who, when he saw a professional accomplishment of mine, told me it wasn’t as impressive as his dick. The politician who told me to tell people he had a big dick. (It was average.) The woke professor who talked a lot about feminism but refused to put on a condom and scared me when he grabbed my neck and kissed me, leaving bruises. There was the wedding hookup. The married novelist,” Lenz wrote.
But the testimony of Christine Blasey Ford before the Senate put an end to Lenz’s bonanza of masculine flesh, bringing her back to reality and leading her to realize how badly men had hurt her.
“How could I learn to love men? So much of my life had been ruined by them. The man who molested my sister and ripped our family apart. Men in school who’d hurt me in ways I had long repressed,” she wrote. “A man who’d made me feel so small, hounding me at a conference, insisting I come up to his room. The constant battering of words and judgments and hands from men. I still wanted them. I wanted them on new terms.”
Lenz’s reflections eventually led to a startling epiphany that perhaps informs her Tuesday tweet-storm: “I don’t want to be controlled. I want to be a mess.”
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