“Fuck whomever and support abortion funds.”
Alyssa Milano’s call on Twitter Friday for women to launch a #SexStrike over new restrictions on abortion did not get the reaction she was hoping for.
While some liberals signed on to the campaign, Woke Twitter generally joined conservatives in opposing it – albeit for very different reasons. A number of prominent feminists accused Milano of setting back women’s sexual liberation.
Immigration reporter Tina Vasquez told Milano to “go back to acting.” Addressing her fellow women, she urged: “Get dicked down all you want. You deserve it in this hellscape.”
I need Alyssa Milano to stop. Just go back to acting. Whatever manager or PR person told her it’s cool to be an “activist” now is making all of us suffer through this White Feminism Hell. And fuck a sex strike. Get dicked down all you want. You deserve it in this hellscape.
— Tina Vasquez (@TheTinaVasquez) May 12, 2019
Imami Gandy, a pro-abortion legal analyst, similarly suggested that women “fuck whoever and support abortion funds.”
Alyssa Milano is back being ridiculous again I see.
What is a sex strike going to do besides reinforce patriarchal notions that women have sex only to please men?
Lysistrata is not an effective organizing tool. Instead, fuck whomever and support abortion funds. #SexStrike
— Imani Gandy (@AngryBlackLady) May 11, 2019
Striking a more academic tone, Playboy writer Maria Del Russo said Milano was creating a “power imbalance where men feel like they have to coerce sex from a woman and woman feel like they have to weaponize their sex lives.”
Hi the idea of a #sexstrike just perpetuates the idea that sex is something women give and men take, creating a power imbalance where men feel like they have to coerce sex from a woman and women feel like they have to weaponize their sex lives thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. https://t.co/llZRy54zNE
— Maria Del Russo (@maria_delrusso) May 11, 2019
User @leftheprairer said that Milano’s #SexStrike played into the hands of conservatives who seek to promote women’s abstinence, but said she was fine with the campaign if it meant “more dick for the rest of us.”
I mean I guess if a sex strike makes you finally break up with your SWERFy White Feminist partner it means more dick for the rest of us
— left the prairie table B13 at CZF (@lefttheprairie) May 11, 2019
Journalist Bridget Phetasy said she wanted to hear from Milano’s husband.
Someone tell Alyssa Milano’s husband to call me.
— Bridget Phetasy (@BridgetPhetasy) May 11, 2019
Long divided over the issue of “sluttiness,” the feminist movement has lately been riven by issues that have less to do with ideology and more to do with identity. Milano has been widely derided as a representative of “white feminism” – i.e. not properly “intersectional” and inclusive.
Even though the actress did not mention race or sexuality in her #SexStrike tweet, feminist journalist Victoria Brownworth protested that “not all women are white nor have sex with men.”
White heterosexual women are promoting a #SexStrike to get equal rights and seem not to have even noticed that not all women are white nor have sex with men.
That's some intersectional feminism.
— Victoria Brownworth (@VABVOX) May 11, 2019
Intersex writer Jes Skolnik said the campaign excluded “us homos/trans people.”
holy shit this #sexstrike is so stupid and pointless for like 90 different reasons. other people have covered its strategic and regressive points so i will just say: y'all really don't care about us homos/trans people do u
— jes skolnik (@modernistwitch) May 11, 2019
Reagan Gomez said the lack of support from women who are not “cisgender,” heterosexual and white indicated that Milano and other #SexStrike advocates “prolly fucked up.”
Folks, if the only women supporting your great “feminist” idea are Cis-Het WW, you prolly fucked up.
— Reagan Gomez (@ReaganGomez) May 12, 2019
On a lighter note, Brooklyn-based actress and writer Eva Victor shared a parody video of herself “explaining to my boyfriend why we’re going on a sex strike” – which quickly went viral.
“You’re gonna get so horny that you explode and basically run to Georgia and change all the laws. Do you know what I mean?” she says,” referring to Georgia’s passage on Tuesday of the “heartbeat law,” which effectively bans abortion after six weeks of pregnancy. “I’m doing it for Alyssa Milano.”
me explaining to my boyfriend why we’re going on a sex strike: pic.twitter.com/AU6PYVv30C
— Eva Victor (@evaandheriud) May 12, 2019
Milano responded to the backlash by retweeting supportive posts and, on Saturday, announcing she is working on an op-ed about the #SexStrike. “Can’t wait for you all to read,” she said.
— Alyssa Milano (@Alyssa_Milano) May 11, 2019
Since helping to launch the #MeToo movement against sexual assault and sexual harassment in 2017, Milano has tried promote a number of other feminist campaigns. But she has struggled to repeat her initial success.
Last week, she was mocked for trying to hijack a campaign to get Wendy’s to bring back its spicy chicken nuggets and turn it into a boycott of the fast-food chain for “refusing to protect farmworker women from sexual assault & rape in the fields.”